ANNOUNCEMENT: Your blessing for your kid’s marriage still matters.
The modern world would have you believe this is an outdated tradition. In fact, now it is unpopular in general to give any opinion that disagrees with how a person feels. No matter what society says, our Christianity says we need to speak up against wrongs. Society would also have you believe that a parent’s blessing doesn’t matter either. “Adults” no longer need parent’s approval. That is not God’s call to parenting.
The Old Testament teaches that a parent should lead the children in the ways of the Lord. “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates” (Deuteronomy 6:6-9). The Old Testament also believes a parent’s wisdom to be valuable. “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck” (Proverbs 1:8-9). Lastly, great guidance comes from Paul’s advice to Timothy on how to guide and lead the church. There is also a lot of truth in this verse for how a father should lead his family: “reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching” (2 Timothy 4:2).
However, now in modern society parents often feel afraid to speak into their child’s life. The devil is circulating many lies. “They might be intimidated by the blessing.” “That’s so old school. It doesn’t pertain to today.” “My child will hate me for the rest of my life if I don’t approve.” “Maybe he/she will figure it out on their own later.” Don’t get caught up in the lies of the enemy. You have the opportunity to lovingly and gracefully help your child into his/her adulthood journey. That being said, make sure that you sincerely seek God’s heart. Intercede and search the Lord for the blessing or loving correction that He would give. Don’t rely on your own judgment, but the Spirit inside you. Of course, if you ever need counsel, first search the Bible and the Holy Spirit, and then call NAME. We would love to talk you through this sensitive issue.