National Association of Marriage Enhancement

Clear Communications

What? I can’t hear you! You are mumbling. You turned away from me. Can you repeat that? What do you mean? I don’t know what you mean.


I don’t know about you, but in our home, at least two of these sentences come up daily.  Naturally, these communication issues will probably always occur to an extent, but each individual needs to make attempts to be clearer in their communication. I don’t need to tell you how busy our culture is. Often times, we are so busy that almost everything we do is done while multi-tasking. How often do our conversations take place while we are cooking, cleaning, shouting while we do something else in the other room, or talking over the television?


If you and your spouse have been having communication issues, analyze what your communication looks like, and make the necessary changes so that each of you will stay engaged in the conversation. Make time to talk without any outside noise. Put aside the distractions and look at each other. Enunciate clearly and think before you speak. These concepts would be used if we were talking to someone of importance like the president or another leader. Show that same respect to your spouse who you love immensely! Give him/her your time, effort and attention.


“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.” Proverbs 25:11 ESV