Generally, if a couple is already on the rocks in their relationship, there most likely are a lot of hurtful and divisive things being said; however, you don’t have to be at a particularly desperate spot in marriage in order for there to be a lot of biting and ugly words coming out. Remember though, the climate of your marriage is gauged by what is being said. Are you in a cold, frigid, unfriendly place? Or are you in a steamy heat of romance? You may not feel at a desperate place at this point, but if the words that are constantly beings said are bitter cold, it is almost guaranteed that your marriage will start feeling the sickening effects.
Proverbs has so much depth of wisdom into the subject of the tongue. Here are some verses that come against contentious and divisive words. Meditate and consider these scriptures. Pray about how they may change the way you communicate in your own marriage. (All listed references are from the NIV.)
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. Proverbs 15:4
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. Proverbs 17:1
Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. Proverbs 17:28
The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating. The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. Proverbs 18:6-7
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21
There are so many more! Add your comments on which proverbs about the tongue and what you say mean a lot to you.