National Association of Marriage Enhancement

Endurance

When you go through the storms of life, where are your eyes focused?

Are your eyes fixed on the beauty of the fresh grass and flowers that will bloom after the rain? Or the endurance that grows when heavy winds blow?

Or are you only fixed on the fear of the lightning and thunder, the heavy winds during the storm…

Our life storms come and go. Similarly, our marriage storms come and go.

Growing as a Christian and learning to rely on God is not about just surrendering and enduring ONE storm, although that season likely taught you many lessons. You see, we are broken people, we make mistakes, and WE need grace and mercy. So if we can look at ourselves and see that we need grace and mercy, then we can assume that other people in our lives will need our grace and mercy. We can’t expect people to never make a mistake again. We can’t expect our spouse to never make a mistake.

In my own life I have learned that I would become so relieved that one storm had passed, and when the next storm came I was caught by surprise. I would question God. I would ask him, “why God, I thought you were good, I thought you were for me, I thought we were done with this struggle!”. Well, God IS good. God IS for you. But the fact is, that we live in a broken world.

Struggles WILL come brothers and sisters!

The Christian walk is about surrendering in EVERY storm, never giving up, and knowing the beauty that is created AFTER the storm.

This is true in marriage as well as life in general.

Think about your marriage…

Marriage never gives up through the storms. The love that a marriage should express and reflect is explained so beautifully in the following scripture:

1 Corinthians 13:7-8 ESV

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love in marriage requires we look beyond ourselves and beyond what we can get out of the marriage. Love focuses our hearts on what we can GIVE. We can give forgiveness, grace, mercy, love and SO many other things. But you have to believe God when He says that you can trust these principals in life and marriage.

Romans 5:4-6 CEV

And endurance builds character, which gives us a hope that will never disappoint us. All of this happens because God has given us the Holy Spirit, who fills our hearts with his love.

Trust God that by ENDURING the storm you will see the beauty and freshness of what’s to come.